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Wedding Music – More First Dance Songs

13 Aug

I enjoy writing these music posts… as a photographer’s assistant for Roberto Farren Photography, I’m often involved in logistics, people, and details.  However it’s the speeches and the music that are often what really sets the tone for the celebration, makes people slow down, and more often than not, tear up. Here are a few more of my ever-growing list of top first dance songs:

  • For once in my life, Stevie Wonder – There are easily a dozen Stevie Wonder songs that could have made this list, but this one is my fave, partly because it was my sister’s first dance song, but also because it’s happy, it’s fun, and it’s easy to dance to. This song reminds me of someone that feels like they absolutely won first prize when they met their partner, and is totally unashamed of shouting it out.
  • She’s got a way, Billy Joel – Every once in a while, you get a couple that decides that one will choose the first dance song and surprise the other. If it’s a bride being surprised, this is a classic. From Billy Joel’s first album, ‘She’s got a way’ is a less peppy but very honest and loving song, and it’s a wonderful dedication to your partner as a first dance.
  • Make you feel my love, Bob Dylan, Billy Joel, Adele, Garth Brooks, Shawn Colvin, Neil Diamond, etc – A song that works for any couple, regardless of what type of music you like! Not everyone is a fan of Bob Dylan’s singing voice, but it is undeniable that he is one of the best songwriters ever, and gosh, does he nail it with this song. This song isn’t about standing on the roof shouting, it’s about sitting together, holding hands, and looking into each other’s eyes. The lyrics reflect traditional wedding vows, and detail all the ways you would be there for each other as you enter your marriage.  And if you aren’t a fan of the gravelly rasp in Dylan’s later tunes, you’ve got a whole host of alternatives to check out!

And now that those three are up, three more have popped into my head… more to come!

Thanks for reading,

Erin

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Wildebeests and Velveeta: The Vows

18 Jun

I thought I’d start with the part of the wedding that gets me almost every time: the marriage vows. Whether the ceremony is secular or religious, whether the words were written thousands of years ago or minutes before they are spoken, the vows always kick me right in the tear ducts.  As a wedding photographer’s assistant for Roberto Farren Photography, I am typically crouched down at the back of the venue, trying to keep the top of my head out of pictures, but this is my favorite part of the day.  The readings, the ceremony, the speeches…everything else about the day will be beautiful and moving, but this is the part of the wedding where you’re attesting to each other, in front of your nearest and dearest, that you don’t want anyone else.  You’ve made the choice to be together, and you get to tell the world, and most importantly, each other.

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Emily tears up as Carlos reads his heartfelt vows on their wedding day in Boston, MA.

There’s just one thing… you have to get through these.  Out loud.  In front of people.   That’s not always an easy task for people.  If you have trouble with public speaking, there’s no shame in that.  Most people fear public speaking more than death, and science has theories as to why: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-real-story-risk/201211/the-thing-we-fear-more-death

While your inability to get through your vows will probably not get you pushed out of the wildebeest herd, it is important to know your strengths and work within them.  If you’re sticking to traditional vows, make sure you practice.  Trust me, it can all get a bit foggy up there, no matter how ready you think you are.

If you’re writing your own vows, write from the heart.  That said, try to be concise.  It will be an emotional day, and while the occasional tear (or even an occasional blubber) is expected, you don’t want to have a shaking, fainting, sob-fest during a 17-page “Ode to my love”.  You shouldn’t have to list every single thing you love about each other, but highlighting a few specifics is a great way to start.

Get personal, but don’t go too over the top.  Remember, your grandmother is listening, and we don’t want anyone having to use Urban Dictionary during the ceremony.

Share inside jokes, but remember to keep it simple.  During my infamous 6-cry wedding, I blubbered over the groom’s promise to love his wife, despite her fondness for Velveeta instant mac and cheese. Everyone could relate to loving someone in spite of their flaws (Velveeta? Good gracious) and this sweet, funny promise spoke volumes.  Their eyes were locked on each other’s as his voice cracked, and she let out a beaming half guffaw/half sob.  Roberto captured this exact moment, and it is a wonderful photograph.  Their family and friends were giggling and shedding happy tears.  It was a perfect happy-cry statement.

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Mike promises love, in spite of Velveeta, to Denise at their recent wedding in Cambridge, MA.

Finally, bring it home.  Keep it simple, and end with the promise to love your almost-spouse through thick and thin.

Still nervous?  

1. Practice.  Not that many people have the gift of improvisation.   Even if you think you do, prepare.

2. Here are a few websites that might be helpful to look over before your wedding day:
From MIT, here are some tips on public speaking for scientists.  While not 100% applicable to your wedding day, it gives a nice, non-fluffy breakdown of how to approach public speaking:
http://web.mit.edu/urop/resources/speaking.html

From the University of Pittsburgh, here are some tips for relaxing before public speaking:
http://www.speaking.pitt.edu/student/public-speaking/speechanxiety.html

STILL nervous?

Don’t fret.  Your wedding can be a nerve-wracking day, but it’s also a happy day, filled with love, laughter and cake.  You’re going to be just fine.

Thanks for reading,

Erin