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Pets and animals at weddings – tips

25 Jul

To many people, pets are an important part of the family.  In addition to being fun to play with and cute to look at, they have awesome side effects like lowering blood pressure, lowering risk for depression and even lowering cholesterol.

It’s no wonder that couples often incorporate family pets into their wedding day. Whether the family pooch is serving as the ring bearer or a member of the wedding party, getting your pet involved is a great way to personalize your wedding day, and you’ll get some great wedding photos as well!  Here are some tips and things to consider if you’re thinking about incorporating your pet in your wedding ceremony or celebration:

  1. Practice. Humans practice at weddings, and the same should go for any animals involved. Allow them to be familiar with the path they’ll be taking, and make sure they’re responsive to any commands that you’ll be using on the day.
  2. Don’t forget that pets, dogs especially, are little emotion barometers. Darwin knew it, you shouldn’t forget it. If you’re nervous, sad or scared, your pet may pick up on it, and react accordingly. Know your pet, and be mindful of how they’ll act and react in certain situations.
  3. Be realistic about your pet’s “bolt factor” before trusting them with anything that’s critical to the ceremony (like a reading) or expensive (like a ring).
  4. Get to the groomer. You’re looking your best, make sure Fido gets spiffed up as well! In addition to having them look dapper, this will hopefully also minimize a bunch of shedding on dark suits or muddy paws on white dresses.
  5. If you have an overly rambunctious pet, or a breed that some people might consider intimidating, don’t forget to consider your guests, especially little ones.

A number of cultures also incorporate animals that aren’t pets into their wedding ceremonies and celebrations.  Here are some of my favorites:

Elephant – The elephant is a large (har har) part of the groom’s procession, or baraat, in North Indian and Pakistani culture.  If you’ve got the budget and space for this, renting an elephant is a tremendous way to make an entrance!

White Horse – If you don’t have an elephant hanging around, a white horse is also a traditional conveyance for a groom. A female white horse is symbolic of pureness, practicality, and love.

Doves – Doves are a symbol of peace and eternal love, and you sometimes see them released during the wedding ceremony.

Thanks for reading,

Erin

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Wildebeests and Velveeta: The Vows

18 Jun

I thought I’d start with the part of the wedding that gets me almost every time: the marriage vows. Whether the ceremony is secular or religious, whether the words were written thousands of years ago or minutes before they are spoken, the vows always kick me right in the tear ducts.  As a wedding photographer’s assistant for Roberto Farren Photography, I am typically crouched down at the back of the venue, trying to keep the top of my head out of pictures, but this is my favorite part of the day.  The readings, the ceremony, the speeches…everything else about the day will be beautiful and moving, but this is the part of the wedding where you’re attesting to each other, in front of your nearest and dearest, that you don’t want anyone else.  You’ve made the choice to be together, and you get to tell the world, and most importantly, each other.

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Emily tears up as Carlos reads his heartfelt vows on their wedding day in Boston, MA.

There’s just one thing… you have to get through these.  Out loud.  In front of people.   That’s not always an easy task for people.  If you have trouble with public speaking, there’s no shame in that.  Most people fear public speaking more than death, and science has theories as to why: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-real-story-risk/201211/the-thing-we-fear-more-death

While your inability to get through your vows will probably not get you pushed out of the wildebeest herd, it is important to know your strengths and work within them.  If you’re sticking to traditional vows, make sure you practice.  Trust me, it can all get a bit foggy up there, no matter how ready you think you are.

If you’re writing your own vows, write from the heart.  That said, try to be concise.  It will be an emotional day, and while the occasional tear (or even an occasional blubber) is expected, you don’t want to have a shaking, fainting, sob-fest during a 17-page “Ode to my love”.  You shouldn’t have to list every single thing you love about each other, but highlighting a few specifics is a great way to start.

Get personal, but don’t go too over the top.  Remember, your grandmother is listening, and we don’t want anyone having to use Urban Dictionary during the ceremony.

Share inside jokes, but remember to keep it simple.  During my infamous 6-cry wedding, I blubbered over the groom’s promise to love his wife, despite her fondness for Velveeta instant mac and cheese. Everyone could relate to loving someone in spite of their flaws (Velveeta? Good gracious) and this sweet, funny promise spoke volumes.  Their eyes were locked on each other’s as his voice cracked, and she let out a beaming half guffaw/half sob.  Roberto captured this exact moment, and it is a wonderful photograph.  Their family and friends were giggling and shedding happy tears.  It was a perfect happy-cry statement.

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Mike promises love, in spite of Velveeta, to Denise at their recent wedding in Cambridge, MA.

Finally, bring it home.  Keep it simple, and end with the promise to love your almost-spouse through thick and thin.

Still nervous?  

1. Practice.  Not that many people have the gift of improvisation.   Even if you think you do, prepare.

2. Here are a few websites that might be helpful to look over before your wedding day:
From MIT, here are some tips on public speaking for scientists.  While not 100% applicable to your wedding day, it gives a nice, non-fluffy breakdown of how to approach public speaking:
http://web.mit.edu/urop/resources/speaking.html

From the University of Pittsburgh, here are some tips for relaxing before public speaking:
http://www.speaking.pitt.edu/student/public-speaking/speechanxiety.html

STILL nervous?

Don’t fret.  Your wedding can be a nerve-wracking day, but it’s also a happy day, filled with love, laughter and cake.  You’re going to be just fine.

Thanks for reading,

Erin

 

Quote

“For small creatures such as we…”

18 Jun

“For small creatures such as we
the vastness is bearable only through love.”
Carl Sagan

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Newlyweds at Colt State Park, RI

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